Questions To Ask Yourself About A New Dating ‑ Partner

1. Can you state particular characteristics of this person that you like/admire ?

2. Is partner glad you have other friends?

3. Is partner pleased at your accomplishments and ambitions?

4. Does partner ask for and give consideration to your opinions?

5. Does this person both talk and listen?

6. Is this person able to verbalize his/her feelings?

7. Does partner have a good relationship with nuclear family?

8. Does this person have good friends?

9. Does this person have interests besides you?

10. Do you consider this person a friend as well as a potential lover/mate?

11. Does partner respect your right to make decisions affecting your own life?

12. Does this person accept responsibility for his/her actions (not blame failures/negatives results on others)?

13. When angry, does (s)he break or throw things?

14. Does partner lose his/her temper easily?

15. Does this person ask you about your past dating partners?

16. Does partner expect to be told where you have been when you are not with him/her?

17. Does this person think there are any circumstances in which it is okay for a man to hit a woman?

18. Is partner jealous of your friends or relatives?

19. Does partner think you are "cheating" on him/her if you talk to or dance with someone else?

20. Does partner get angry if you are not attentive to him/her?

21. Does (s)he "take over" when you're having trouble doing something, whether you want him/her to or not?

22. Does partner silently sulk when angry?

23. Does this person drink or take drugs almost every day, or go on periodic binges?

24. Does this person ridicule you or "put you down?"

25. Do you like yourself less than usual when you've been with this person.